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Over the last several weeks, I have watched the TV news with interest regarding what has been happening with the marriage of Jon and Kate Gosselin. On Sunday night, I had the opportunity to watch the most recent episodes regarding their separation and pending divorce. Based on the separate and combined interviews they have both given on their show, here's my take on what's going on with their marriage:
- Jon wants out of the marriage and doesn't seem to want to work through their issues.
- Jon needs to "man up" and admit where he has failed. His beautiful children deserve a strong, humble father.
- Kate seems to desire an opportunity to heal the marriage.
- In a situation such as this, both husband and wife need to have the desire for reconciliation . Otherwise, the marriage is doomed.
- Jon needs to grow up. He's acting like a 20-something who wants his freedom to live the single life, again.
- Kate needs to back down and stop being such a control freak. I'm a control freak myself, so I understand her mindset. Wives need to allow their husbands to lead in a marriage. This is God's plan according to His Word.
- They need to stop using their 8 children as an excuse to separate and divorce for the sake of peace in the home.
- Peace at any price is not always the best thing.
- Their marriage is actually more important than their 8 kids.
- Their 8 children will have greater security growing up with both of their parents in the same house.
- In the past, they have both claimed the name of Christ and have spoken to many churches. Allow Christ to heal the marriage.
- Seek out the best, Christian-based counseling that money can buy.
- Kate loves doing the TLC show, but Jon doesn't seem to desire the spotlight, anymore. Maybe Kate needs to end the TV show for Jon's sake?
- Marriage is difficult even in the easiest of circumstances. Having 2 sets of multiples, a hit Cable TV show, a mom who travels a lot for book tours and speaking engagements, and the paparazzi following you around is a recipe for disaster.
- It is possible to heal the relationship even after a divorce takes place.